After a massively stressful day at work today; which involved messy work, yelling, chaos, and negativity, I clocked out, went into my car, and completely lost it. I could not get back together until I got home and laid down for a bit. I’ve realized that after everything that has happened, it’s ok to do that. Its ok to have a complete meltdown after so much has happened lately. Even if nothing has really happened it’s ok to do so. I always come back stronger and stronger every time I have a breakdown.
I give this message because I have met and talked to so many people who constantly beat themselves down. Now we all know deep down that negative self-talk and beating ourselves up doesn’t work. But, some people were raised or influenced to believe otherwise. Telling yourself; “I could do so much better than that” or “I just need to suck it up and get over it” or “What the hell am I doing?” or “I’m pathetic to be getting worked up over something like this” and so on. More importantly so is telling yourself (or others) to immediately calm down during a point where we are not in the state of mind to be able to calm down.
Instead of telling yourself or others to calm down, suck it up, get over it, let it go, etc– try saying “Just breathe”. That is the best thing we can do in these kinds of situations. Breathing and allowing yourself to break is what helps make us stronger in the end. Letting ourselves work through it so we can drop the weight from our shoulders is so so much better than holding it within. Stuffing gunk deeper within the bank of our subconscious will never help, but only drag you down to the point where you have no choice, but to break.
So, let yourself break. Let yourself breathe. Let yourself be. =)